My Core Values

Yesterday I shared with you the importance of determining your personal Core Values. If you missed that post, you can find it here, along with the Free Printable Worksheets.

Today, I’m going to share with you my own personal Core Values that I came up with by completing these worksheets, and what they mean to me.

1. Fulfill Vision.
I was debating between the word Vision and Personal Development. I chose Vision because I think it encompasses the bigger picture of my life… my whole goals, desires, and God’s plan for my life. Personal Development and growth will definitely be included in that as I mature as a person and a Christian, but the word Vision speaks to it all as a whole.

2. Pursue excellence. 
Notice that I did not choose “Pursue Perfection”. Perfection is unattainable, and when I’ve pursued perfection, I’ve only been left feeling “less that” or inadequate, not good enough. As I’ve let go of “perfection” and realized the true meaning of the word excellence, I’ve grown as a person I believe. The definition of Excellence that I’m going with is “doing the best I can with what I have”. It may not be the fanciest or the best way to do things, but if it’s the best that I have, then it’s good enough for God. This includes my time, my stewardship of finances, my home life, my family, everything.

3. Realize Uniqueness.
As I learn more and more about myself, my identity, and all of the things that includes – personality typing, cognitive functions, enneagram, strengths finder, love language, spiritual gifts, etc. I realize who I am – why I do the things I do. Some things about me are good. Some not so good.  As with anyone. I want to realize my uniqueness as a person and celebrate that. And also strive for improvements on the areas where I am weak. (Ex. I’m not going to purposefully use my direct personality type as an excuse to be mean to people. That would be no good.) In addition to doing this for myself, I also want to realize the uniqueness in others – especially my immediate family, but also other people I do life with. It will help me to better understand people and not take offense to things. Hopefully, I will be able to also encourage people in their own uniqueness & potential.

4. Produce Well-Being.
This includes my spiritual health, general physical health, fitness, nutrition, but also self-care and stress-relief. I’m beginning to realize the things that cause me stress in life, and I try my best to avoid those things or work around them. It’s not always possible, but I’m doing my best, and I’ve noticed significant improvements in my stress-levels from doing this. I’m working on habits to cultivate growth in my spiritual life and work on improving my general health as well.

5. Focus on Relationships. 
I’m a very task-oriented person, but I’m coming to realize that the Relationships I have are way more important than any Rules or Routines I come up with. It’s hard to put into practice. But I’m trying.

What are your personal Core Values? I’d love to know what you’ve come up with! Share with us in our Purposeful Planning Facebook Group.
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Determine Your Core Values (with Free Printable!)

In planning, something I’ve found to be important it to start with the big picture and break it down smaller and smaller into a daily plan of action. Another way to do this is to think backwards.

Visualize with me. Fast forward to the very end of your life. What will matter to you then, when your life is over? Those are the things that will matter now too, and probably the things that you should prioritize. I know death and the end of your life probably aren’t fun things to think about, but if it helps you to live better in the here and the now, then maybe it’s necessary.

Just for kicks – I did a little research for you. I think you will be enlightened by this, just as I was.

Here are the 9 Most Common Regrets People Have at the End of Life:
1. I wish I had been more loving to the people that matter most.
2. I wish I had been a better spouse, parent, or child.
3. I wish I had not spent so much time working.
4. I wish I had taken more risks.
5. I wish I had been happier and enjoyed life more.
6. I wish I had lived my very own dream.
7. I wish I had taken better care of myself.
8. I wish I had done more for others.
9. I wish I had chosen work that was meaningful for me.

Now, let’s think about Core Values. What is a Core Value? It’s a statement that sums up what you believe or what you value most in life. Usually, one will have up to a maximum of five of these statements that really define who they are as a person. It’s a standard that you set for yourself, and you can use it to help you in your decision-making.

Get your FREE Printable Core Values Worksheet! 

Now, would you like some help to determine your own personal core values? I’ve created a step-by-step worksheet just for you! 

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    Discover Your Passions (with Free Printable!)

    If I were to interview you and say, “So tell me about yourself,” what would you say to me?

    Would you say that you are a Wife, a Mother, maybe name some of your roles for me like your Career, your Church Involvement, or your Obligations with your Kid’s school? These are your Relational and Occupational Roles.

    Or would you tell me about the things that you are not OBLIGATED to do, but the things that you actually ENJOY doing…. that you are a Memory Keeper, Writer, Planner, Deal Shopper, StoryTeller, Photographer, Runner, Crafter, etc.? Those things would be your Passions and the things that fulfill you on a very personal level, wouldn’t they?

    So let’s dig a little deeper than the surface level relational roles and hats you wear here… I want you to think about your Passions. The things you Love and Enjoy. The things that excite you? The thing that invigorates you, fulfills you when you get the time to do it?

    Be honest and bold here in your response. What is it that makes you giddy and your heart race? If you are having trouble, take a few more minutes to think about it. It could be that you haven’t made time for yourself in so long that you find it difficult to develop a list. It could also be that, for whatever reason, you’ve stopped doing the thing that you love to do.

    I know that I can say this was true for me. I have always loved to write and been fulfilled in it – even if no one ever read it. But it wasn’t something I pursued because I didn’t have the time. Until I started to MAKE the time. And now, I’m more fulfilled than ever because I’m doing what I love.

    Find whatever it is that you love – the thing you can do for yourself.

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    I’ve created these special worksheets to help you discover exactly what it is that you are passionate about! 

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      Strides of Increase, Week 4

      As you know, my word of the year is Increase. When I think about the word Increase, I think about personal growth, getting better, being intentional and purposeful. I wanted to post a regular update of sorts of how I’m using my Word of the Year in a personal way. Sure, it’s easy to choose a word to claim over your year, but if you do nothing with it, it’s really just a word.

      So that is what I’m going to do with my word, Increase, and I’m going to bring you along on this journey with me. Hopefully it will inspire you to do the same with the word you’ve chosen and your own New Year’s Resolutions & Goals. Apply it to your life in a personal way and make some positive changes.

      So how am I striving to INCREASE this year and this week specifically?
      (Personally, Professionally, & in my Family)

      • I’m working to build worthwhile habits.
        -Re-establishing the Habit of Working Out
        I worked out every day this week, except Wednesday. I even made my morning skill-practice sessions. We’ve got a good routine going now.
        -Establish the Habit of Reading Aloud to my Children
        I didn’t read to my children as many times as I would have liked to, but we still did some. I didn’t take the time to photo document the times we did though.
        Establish the Habit of Daily Reading, Personally 
        This week I read Reading People by Anne Bogel through chapter 6. It’s not much, but at least it’s progress. I think I can easily finish this book this week if I prioritize it.

        I’ll be working on new habits each month and tracking them in my planner. Next month starts three new habits and trackers for me.

         

         

      • I want to GROW as a Christian and as a person in general.
        I am loving Priscilla Shirer’s study called Discerning the Voice of God. At a time in my life where I feel so conflicted on so many things, it couldn’t have come at a more perfect time.

        Would yall just look at that sweet little hand trying to “color” here?
      • Celebrate the wins & Focus on the Positive.
        This week I received photo prints in the mail that I had ordered and added them to my Happy Planner. My Happy Planner just got Happier!
         
      • I want to build my blog and expand to new territories of influence.
        My blog is transitioning to Purposeful Planning soon. There will be a challenge this month on the topic of Self-Care, as well as a Facebook group to dive deeper into this topic with my readers.
      • GROW my Platform. I’ve been seeking God about what it is that He would have me share with my readers and my social media followers.
      • Work on and Build each relationship. To do this, I am studying the personality types and love languages of each of those in my immediate family. I am reading and thinking about how to create a life-giving home. I want to better understand, love, and serve those closest to me. 

         

      • Focus on hearts & character. These will be things we will focus on more in our home school and home-life in general. I will strive to be more like Jesus in my mothering and as a wife.

        So these are the ways that I am personally working towards INCREASE in my person, professional, and family life. Now, go take your Word of the Year, and make a purposeful plan to bring about positive change in your own life. That’s what it’s all about!

        Ya’ll have a great week! Go make a plan to be purposeful!

        Look for these posts this week from me:
        Discover Your Passions (with Free Printables!)
        Determine Your Core Values (with Free Printables!)
        Letting Go of Perfection
        How to “Sabbath” (with Free Printable!)

         

         

         

         

         

         

      Mama Guilt

      “If you don’t make time for yourself, why don’t you?” The most common answer to this question is guilt. Guilt is wreaking havoc on women’s lives and preventing them from taking care of themselves. The first step in eliminating feelings of guilt for investing in yourself is to give yourself permission.” -Jessica N. Turner in The Fringe Hours

      We feel guilty for taking time for ourselves. It’s the silliest thing really. Let me tell you the thing I felt guilty for… In the evenings, my husband would come home and spend time with us, especially our two boys who really wanted time with Daddy after he’d been at work all day. So they would play and wrestle, and I would hold or care for our infant at the time. She wasn’t exactly ready for all the rough-housing that boys do. But at some point in the evening, I would ask my husband if he would take the baby for me so I could get a bath. I always felt guilty for it because the rough and tumble boy play had to come to a halt because now a fragile infant was amongst them. But I just had to tell myself (and sometimes my husband too) that it is okay for me to take a bath. I’m allowed to take one every day. My husband showers every day. My kids take baths every evening (okay not EVERY evening), but I am allowed to do the same. It’s the only time in my day when I was able to get it done, with having an infant who I had to protect and a toddler to supervise. So even though this seems like such a minimal example… it was the first example that came to mind when I thought about the guilt we face as moms.

      Another example of guilt I’ve faced is on the weekends, when I really want to just rest and play with the rest of my family… but “A mother’s work is never done.” There is always more laundry or dishes or food to be prepped or chores that didn’t get finished during the week. But this mama has been working all week, just like everyone else. So while it’s taken quite a while for me to do so, I’ve chosen to “put aside the guilt” of the house not being perfectly cleaned or not having all of the same routines I have during the week. I now take the time to relax and do something I enjoy as well. Sure, I still make sure the family is fed and we have clothes to wear. But its the bare minimum. Usually, you can find me sitting next to my husband on the couch with my planner or laptop while he’s watching football. Both of us are being fulfilled and doing things that we enjoy.

      I know this may not be possible for everyone. You might have sports events on Saturdays, and there are certainly different seasons of life and of the year as well where the obligations are different. As a mom who stays at home during the week, my children and I get the bulk of the chores done throughout the week so we can have time on the weekends with Daddy here. If you are a working woman, this might look a little different. Maybe you could have a Weekly Home Blessing Hour – where each member of your family tackles their own list of chores for one hour, and then you all have the rest of the day to enjoy together. Seriously, set a timer and see how much you can all collectively get done in that time!

      Just try different things to find something that works for you. And then toss away that guilt, and let yourself have some time to do what you really love!

      Everything for Everyone

      We are currently in a Self-Care Challenge Series. Join us in our Facebook group to get more from this challenge! Just use the password “Self Care” to join.

      Miss the first posts of our Self-Care Challenge?? Find them here…
      A New Direction
      Track Where Your Time is Going (with Free Printable!)
      Give Yourself Permission

      “When we live using our God-given talents and passions, I believe we are pleasing him and more fully living the life we were born to live. In your glorious imperfection, you can still shine beautifully bright. Embrace the truth. Stop trying to be ‘everything for everyone’ and start investing in who and what really matters.” -Jessica N. Turner from The Fringe Hours

      It’s so true that we often feel like we are “everything for everyone” as wives and mothers. A lot of times the responsibility of all of the household tasks and parenting lies on our shoulders. It’s not that we don’t have help. Sure, our husbands are there to co-parent with us, and we work together to get things done around the house.

      But as I’m sure you already know, men and women are wired differently. Men are able to “compartmentalize” so much better than we are. One little box for this task. One little box for that task. Each box only contains one thing, and only one box can be open at a time for them. So when they are doing something, they usually do it pretty well. We have to understand this and take this in account when we ask things of them, because it’s easy for us to get frustrated as women when they do things differently than we do.

      With women, everything is intertwined. Maybe you’ve heard that women are like spaghetti? It makes sense. We may be cooking dinner – but we’re also answering a homework question, responding to a text message, listening to a podcast, and thinking about what to do for tomorrow’s lunches. All at once. See what I mean?

      So it’s just natural that although husbands and wives are to work together at the household tasks and responsibilities and parenting, the women are the ones who are thinking about it constantly and usually the ones who are the “managers” of the household for that very reason. And because we are often the “managers”, a lot of the weight usually falls on our shoulders, and we carry it around with us.

      We may be “at work” but we are already thinking about what time we have to pick the kids up and how we will get dinner prepared and homework done before we have to be at that practice. And then – we realize we forgot one of the ingredients for tonight’s meal and there’s no time for a trip to the store.  So here you are on your lunch break (hopefully, wink wink), looking up alternate meal plans for tonight with what you’ve got left in your fridge. And while our husbands are at work, they are really “at work”, and none of this even crosses their minds. Ahh, how nice that must be.

      So wives, mamas, – let’s avoid the overwhelm. Let’s learn how to use our time wisely. Let’s prepare ahead for what we can and do our very best. And most importantly today – let’s give ourselves permission to do something for ourselves so that we don’t feel so out of control and bogged down. I promise you – when you do this, it’s going to make that weight (the normal day to day thoughts and tasks) we inevitably carry seem so much smaller and more manageable, even though it’s really the same all along.

      Give Yourself Permission

      “As moms especially, we often find it hard to give ourselves permission to pursue the things that matter to us. Perhaps we feel that motherhood is our highest calling. And it IS important – don’t get me wrong. But also, maybe deep inside of you… another desire burns. One that is just for you. It might be ignited when you sit down with a good book and a candle burning, in solitude. Or it might be awakened when your feet hit the pavement for an early morning run. Whatever it is, find it.”
      -Jessica N. Turner from The Fringe Hours

      Being a mom is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I am so blessed by my three children. I get to watch them as they sleep, laugh at their silly personalities, and watch them grow into awesome adults a little tiny bit each day. It really does go by so fast like they all say.

      But you know what – I am not ONLY a mother. It’s not my only role in life, and I don’t want to lose myself just because I am a mom now. After all, one day they will be grown and will leave my nest. If being a mother is all that I am, what will I do then? Go crazy, probably. There are enough things here on earth that can make a girl go crazy. That doesn’t need to be one of them. Don’t lose yourself, mamas. It’s not your only role.

      So it’s important that I take care of myself first. When I take care of myself and my well-being, I am fulfilled. I’m my best self. Then, it takes my motherhood (as well as my other roles) to a whole ‘nother level of greatness. When I’m happy, I can help the others in my household to be happy as well. You know the saying, “When mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Well maybe it’s true. Find what it is you love to do. Make the time to do it. Be fulfilled. And then go be a mom. Go be a wife. Go be the Christian that God has called you to be. And go do whatever job you are assigned to do right now – whether it’s staying at home with your littles, homeschooling and blogging, or if it’s being a career woman. Go do your thing, and do it well.

      I know as a homeschooling mother, one of the things I think about is what I want my children to grow up to be like. Actually, you probably think about this too for your children. What character traits and values do I want them to have? One of the things that I want for them is that they grow up to love learning new things. I also want them to find what it is that they love and pursue that. I don’t care if it’s helping people find a cure and treat their diseases or fixing cars. It could be performing or teaching or doing missions abroad. I know that God has a plan for each of them. He’s put desires in each of their hearts. They each have their own little personality types and things that make them uniquely them. I don’t want to pressure them to do something that will “make a lot of money” or “be impressive on a resume”. I want them to do what they enjoy, what God has prepared for them to do, and what will ultimately fulfill them in life.

      So if I’m going to encourage my children in this, I have to set the example. I have to be doing the thing that I love, the thing that I enjoy, what God has prepared me to do, and what fulfills me too!

      So Mamas… Women… Whoever is reading this… It’s time to give yourself permission – permission to find and make time to do the thing that you enjoy so that you can be better at all of your other roles.

      Don’t forget to click over and join us in our new Facebook group where we can take these Self-Care Challenge Posts to the next level and apply them in a purposeful way to our own lives. It’s what Purposeful Planning is all about!

      Track Where Your Time is Going (with FREE Printable!)

      In a financial budget when you are trying to evaluate whether or not you have “room in the budget” to add something new, what do you do? You might take time to look and see where your money is actually going to be sure your budget is accurate or if changes need to be made.

      The same can be done with our time. The only difference here is that all of have the same amount of time – 24 hours in a day. I’ve also created a worksheet for you to create a a “Time Budget“, but it’s important to see “where our time is actually going” before we can tell it where we want it to go. Make sense?

      So I’ve created a Daily Time Tracker for you. Print as many copies as you need as each of your days may look a little different, depending on your obligations. It’s important to write down what you are ACTUALLY doing during that time, not what you usually do or want to be doing.

      You may be surprised to find some extra margin time in there to do something you really love – the time you spent perusing Facebook or watching a T.V. show, perhaps? I know that when I first did this, I was surprised to see how much multi-tasking I was doing when I had to write in many many tasks on a line and even scribble things in the margins of the page. It really gave me a detailed view of how I was spending my time, and I’ve been able to make some changes to it so that I’m spending my time more wisely now. I hope you will be enlightened by this as well. Go ahead an do it for a week so that you can have an accurate view when you get ready to work on your Time Budgets soon.

      Get your FREE Daily Time Tracker! 

      We all have the same 24 hours, but it’s important that we can see “Where our Time is Actually Going” so that we can be strategic in “Telling it Where to Go.” This FREE Time Tracker will help you to do just that! 

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        Strides of Increase, Week 3

        As you know, my word of the year is Increase. When I think about the word Increase, I think about personal growth, getting better, being intentional and purposeful. I wanted to post a regular update of sorts of how I’m using my Word of the Year in a personal way. Sure, it’s easy to choose a word to claim over your year, but if you do nothing with it, it’s really just a word.

        So that is what I’m going to do with my word, Increase, and I’m going to bring you along on this journey with me. Hopefully it will inspire you to do the same with the word you’ve chosen. Apply it to your life in a personal way and make some positive changes.

        So how am I striving to INCREASE this year and this week specifically?
        (Personally, Professionally, & in my Family)

        • I’m working to build worthwhile habits.
          -Re-establishing the Habit of Working Out
          With sick kiddos and snow days this week, I missed my morning “Bonus Work” gym sessions, but I did make 4 workouts this week so I’m okay with that.

          -Establish the Habit of Reading Aloud to my Children
          We read several days this week. Layten also brought me a Playstation Game case for me to “read” to her one day, so at least I know that she’s enjoying our read aloud time. I took a few pics to document the books we read.

          This one was fun because Layten has learned how to say “apple”, and there are apples on literally every page.

          Establish the Habit of Daily Reading, Personally 
          This week I read Stronger than the Strugger by Havilah Cunnington, chapter 1 and Reading People by Anne Bogel through chapter 4.

        • I want to GROW as a Christian and as a person in general.
          In addition to my habit of reading the One Year Bible, this week I began my first supplemental study of the year – Priscilla Shirer’s study Discerning the Voice of God. It’s already SO GOOD! (And the video sessions are available free right now through LifeWay if you want to get a book a join me!)

          Would yall just look at that sweet little hand trying to “color” here?
        • Celebrate the wins & Focus on the Positive.
          I’m doing this by memory-keeping in my Happy Planner, but here is some photo documentation of a few things…

          A Moment that they are playing well together… definitely cause for celebration!
          Lawson lost his very first tooth! Literally about an hour after we noticed it was loose, he pulled it himself. I hope they are all this easy!

          Justin competed in the Hometown Throwdown CrossFit competition near us this weekend. He and his partner placed 5th in the RX male division. He had about 8 of our CrossFit members come out to support him, plus his family of course.
        • I want to build my blog and expand to new territories of influence.
          My blog is transitioning to Purposeful Planning soon. There will be a challenge this month on the topic of Self-Care, as well as a Facebook group to dive deeper into this topic with my readers.
        • GROW my Platform. I’ve been seeking God about what it is that He would have me share with my readers and my social media followers.
        • Work on and Build each relationship. To do this, I am studying the personality types and love languages of each of those in my immediate family. I am reading and thinking about how to create a life-giving home. I want to better understand, love, and serve those closest to me.

        • Focus on hearts & character. These will be things we will focus on more in our home school and home-life in general. I will strive to be more like Jesus in my mothering and as a wife.
          This little fella is a “drink snatcher.” I’m guilty of usually being a little possessive over my drinks, but Daddy reminded me that one day I will miss having a little boy to come a snatch my drinks from me. #Perspective

          So these are the ways that I am personally working towards INCREASE in my person, professional, and family life. Now, go take your Word of the Year, and make a purposeful plan to bring about positive change in your own life. That’s what it’s all about!

          Ya’ll have a great week! Go make a plan to be purposeful!

          More photos from the week… 

          Playing “Astronauts” by laying their car seats down in the kitchen and using a slinky for a seat belt…. Love their imaginations!


          Justin and his workout partner… I love his game face!


           

        A New Direction

        Hey, readers!

        I want to thank you for being faithful here to me and to my blog. I’ve been praying about what God would have me write to you here on the blog, and I’ve been conflicted. As you know, this past week I launched Purposeful Planning on Patreon, and I introduced a monthly challenge for the month of January on the topic of Self-Care. During the time, I was working on this content and printable resources for Patreon, I struggled with knowing what I should post here on my blog. I knew that I wanted to continue here as well, but I didn’t know what I should be posting about. I also didn’t know how to make those printable resources available to you also in a way that made sense.

        Now, I think I have my answer. I will be closing my Patreon account in a few weeks and transferring all of that content over here to my blog. I want it to be available to as many women as possible. My whole belief and intent with launching Patreon was to help women to be more intentional and purposeful in planning their lives. Patreon was a great tool for doing that, and it simplified things for me big time, but it didn’t make sense for me to have two separate tools for posting content on the web – Patreon and my blog. So now, I am consolidating the two into one and sticking with what I know.

        I love the vision that God has given me for Purposeful Planning! I would eventually love to purchase a domain name and rename this blog, as I believe most of what I’m posting here does fall into that “Purposeful Planning” category anyway. It’s just who I am. That is my goal and something I will be working towards in the near future.

        So… with all of that said – we are about to begin a Self-Care Challenge here on the blog! There are SO many different aspects of this that we will cover… Time Management and
        Prioritizing our Time for what’s most important to us,
        Determining our Core Values,
        Discovering our Passions – what really fulfills us personally,
        How to Care for our Physical Health,
        How to Care of our Emotional & Mental Health, and
        How to Care for our Spiritual Health & Well-Being as well!

        Plus, we’ll cover several topics in between like how to “give ourselves permission to take time for self-care”, the “mama-guilt” we face, and overcoming fears that hold us back from doing things that we love to do.

        I’ve created a Printable Task List for the month. Some things on the list are actual tasks that will require you to take the time to do or make a plan to do them at some point. Others are more of an internal decision for you to make and easy to check off the list when you are ready.

        There is also a Facebook group available, and I would love for you to join us there! I really want us to be able to use this group to discuss the topics and resources more in depth so you can really make this all work for you and apply it to your own lives!

        Here is your link to the Free Printable Monthly Challenge Task List

        Be sure to join our Facebook group, Purposeful Planning.
        To join, use the password: Self Care