We are in a series called My Purposeful Planning where we explore different areas for setting goals and planning to be purposeful and intentional in our lives.
I will be sharing my own Marriage Goals at the end of this post, but I’d like you to think about and make your own. Here are some ideas for you…
Marriage Goal Ideas:
- Pray for your spouse. Pray for his relationship with God, your marriage, his roles, him as a parent, and anything he may be struggling with or temptations he may face.
- Love & Respect your spouse. Treat him the way that you would want to be treated. Don’t stop sending sweet texts, doing nice things, fixing his favorite meals, or just spending time with him doing things he likes.
- Plan monthly or even weekly date nights in advance, and put them on your calendar. (Make room for these in your budget also.)
- Plan a weekend getaway or to attend a Marriage Conference.
- Plan time to talk daily and have intentional, serious talks weekly. Work on communication.
- Study the love language of your spouse and be purposeful in each day about filling their “love tank”.
- Pursue your spouse like you did when you were dating. Listen to them talk about what interests them, and engage in the conversation (even if it’s not your thing). If they don’t talk about their interests with you, it could be a red flag that you haven’t been a good listener in the past. It’s not too late. Start now, and ask them about it.
- Plan to be intimate. It’s important, so if it’s not already happening spontaneously, it’s okay to plan for it. (I recommend the Ultimate Intimacy App for tips, tricks, and resources for emotional and physical intimacy. I love that it’s created especially for Christian, married couples so it’s entirely appropriate.)
My Current Marriage Goals:
We’re in a season of life where we don’t have much time… which means we have to work that much harder to make our marriage a priority. I can easily see how couples could mess this up, and the enemy could come in and do some damage. When you are strained for time or strained for money, it makes things really difficult. Right now, for us, it’s time. We’re making it financially, but we are lacking in the time aspect. And it’s hard. I’m not even gonna lie and say it isn’t.
So here’s how we manage… I may or may not see Justin before he leaves for work around 4:30 am. That’s my wake-up time so sometimes I see him, but not always. Some mornings we go to the gym and catch glimpses of him there while he is busy working, or else we won’t see him until about 2pm. He’s home with us for about an hour and a half before he goes back to work, and he has to divide that time between 4 people all craving his attention. This is the time that I communicate with him anything that we need to talk about. I don’t know if I should admit this or not, but I actually keep a running list of “meeting notes” in my phone so that I won’t forget to talk about them with him when he’s home and available. He’s with clients and coaching CrossFit classes all day, so he usually can’t text me back during the day.
One of our marriage goals this year was to attend our church’s Marriage Conference, and have a weekend getaway for just to two of us. We attended the XO Marriage Conference in February, and I’m thinking we should still plan a getaway at some point. This semester we are also participating in a marriage small group called Love and Respect. Some of the busyness in our current season is coming to an end so we can now start planning our next date night, and in a few weeks we will celebrate our 8th anniversary!