This Summer, Justin and I led a small group at our church called Family I.D., and it was phenomenal! I’ve been wanting to share with you the things that God gave us for our family through doing this small group…. Our Core Values, Our Vision Statement, our Mission Statement, and our Family Slogan.
We weren’t sure how this small group would go. There were a lot of hands-on activities that required each family represented to do some “homework”. We didn’t know if it was something they would grasp ahold of and actually take the time to do or not. To be honest, we weren’t super excited to do the work ourselves. But as the weeks went on, the process became clearer and clearer, and God spoke to each of the families represented in our small group and gave each one a clear Family I.D.
We started by selecting our Family Core Values. You’ve heard my mention these on my blog. The worksheet printable I created for you here at My Purposeful Planning is very similar to the one we used for this small group. We compared our lists with that of our spouse and discussed the similarities and differences in our lists. We took it home and also talked to our children about our lists. We narrowed our lists down to which Core Values we would like to best represent our family.
In no certain order, here are the Core Values our family chose…
Family & Relationships
Knowing God / Prayer / Worship
Personal Growth / Growth
Teamwork / Unity
At first I thought that “humor” seemed like a silly thing to be included in our core values, but the more I thought about it, the more I loved that it was one that we chose. We want to laugh and be silly with our kids always, and we want to laugh and enjoy having fun with friends, family, and guests when they come to visit our home as well. Laughter and humor are good things. I think the rest of the values we chose are probably self-explanatory.
We added verbs to help solidify these for our family…
Celebrate Family & Relationships.
Prioritize Knowing God, Prayer, & Worship.
Pursue Personal Growth.
Praise Teamwork & Unity.
Next, we worked to write our Family Vision Statement.
“Having a well-defined vision statement will help ensure that no matter what life brings, no matter where we find ourselves, we can still get our bearings and stay on course.” – Greg Gunn
“Your family vision statement describes where you are going in words that greatly motivate you to take action.”
“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.” Habakkuk 2:2 ESV
Our Family Vision Statement is…
“To collectively know who we are in Christ and use each of our unique giftings to fulfill God’s Purpose”
After coming up with our vision statement and knowing the direction we wanted our family to go, we came up with a Family Mission Statement that would help us get there… “We will build solid family relationships that are grounded in God, Growth, and Grace.”
And finally, we came up with a simple slogan that our entire family can easily remember to sum up all of these things… Our Family Slogan is “We’re Grounded!” I’m thinking it’s going to be fun to have shirts made for our kids to wear that tell the world they are grounded… (Pun intended). Of course the Mission Statement will probably be there somewhere on the shirt to, and hopefully we’ll all be able to explain what it means to us, in case people ask.
It’s so important that we aren’t “just winging it” as parents. It’s too important of a responsibility that we’ve been given. Having a vision for WHERE we want our family to end up and then coming up with a mission for HOW we will get there is vital. Think about what you want your kids to be like as adults. How can you start encouraging these things in your children now?
We personally love that this small group and these things have given us the verbage and language we needed to talk to our kids about the things God gave us for our family. It’s given us specific things that we can pray over each member of our family daily, which is really strategic in helping us move forward with the direction God wants our family to go.
If you’d like more information about this particular small group curriculum, here’s a link to the videos we watched in each group session as well as the website with more family resources available.
Have you done something like this for your family? Really pray about this, and take the time to do this with your spouse or partner in parenting. I’d love to know what you come up with!
Whatever you do, Let’s Make a Plan to Be More Purposeful!