[Ep. 009] – Our Attitude

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Show Notes –

In this week’s episode of My Purposeful Planning, Laney shares about our attitudes and why it’s so important that we have good and healthy attitudes while managing our families and households. She also shares about those times when our day or our lives get interrupted and things don’t go according to plan.

In This Episode:

  • Welcome!
  • Episode with Morgan
  • Mama’s attitude in the home is SO important!
  • Have you ever seen the family that seems to have it all together?
  • “As wives and mothers, it it critical that we not just have it together on the outside, but that we regularly examine our hearts before God and renew our minds with his word.”
  • Psalms 119:10 – “With my whole heart have I sought thee… Oh let me not wander from thy commandments.”
  • Matthew 15:8 – “This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me.”
  • We have to do right even when we don’t feel like it.
  • “Guard your hearts against this by daily confessing your sins and by staying sensitive toward your own bad attitudes.”
  • Failure-centric mothering – the memes, quotes, and funny things we share that focus on the negative aspects of being a wife and mother
  • Failure-centric mothering hurts our Christian witness.
  • There needs to be a balance between the struggles and the challenges we share and the uber positive highlight reel. The balance is called “realness”. It’s relatable, but it also shares the hope we’ve found and where we find our strength for these hard things.
  • When you share things about your kids, make sure it’s not something that would embarrass them or belittle them.
  • Stop calling your kids “bad”.
  • Christ has overcome, and so can we!
  • The idea of Perfection
  • Enneagram Resource
  • “My idea of perfection tends to be centered around the perfect day, perfectly respectful and obedient children, being the perfect wife, having the perfect home, the perfect landscape design, perfectly weed-free garden with perfect fruits and vegetables, perfect meals – and of course all of that would be due to me being the perfect person. I want to be perfectly kind, perfectly gracious to all, perfectly patient, perfectly everything. Is this so wrong to aim for?” -Kim Brenneman
  • “We must first recognize that attempts to attain perfection in our own strength will fall short – “all our righteousness are as filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6).
  • “If we only boast of our accomplishments, we are in error. It is only by God’s grace and mercy that we can do anything right, and we should give glory to Him when we excel at any pursuit.”
  • “While perfection in human terms will not happen in this world, we should, as Christians, seek to emulate God’s perfect character.”
  • God is perfect, and we are not.
  • “Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2
  • Obedience is a choice.
  • We can do things if we choose to; it’s a matter of obedience.
  • Replace your “I Can’ts” with “I Can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” or “I can try” or “I can’t… yet”.
  • Philippians 4:13
  • I Can’ts get replaced with praying without ceasing.
  • Follow me – Our children watch and imitate us so it IS important what we watch, listen to, etc.
  • “Are you talking to them about things that draw them closer to the Father? Are you whining and complaining through your pity party? Are you showing them a fence-riding Christian who lives a double life? Do you say one thing and do another? Do you threaten to leave or even joke about it? If you’re a homeschooling mom, maybe you threaten to send them off to school. Do you use the TV to keep your children out of the way? Are you relieved when your children are gone from the house for a day, or a few days? Is the law of kindness on your tongue? How often do you sigh? These are hard-hitting questions, and we are all guilty of sinful thoughts that are further expressed in actions! Don’t quit. Don’t give up! Get into God’s word. Make it part of your daily life, apply it, and set the example for your children.”  – Kim Brenneman
  • “You don’t need to say ‘Follow me,’ just live in a way that you would want your children to go, and they will follow.”
  • We must keep our heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23
  • “The key thing is attitude. Keep in mind that you should focus on doing something that you can do something about, and let the rest be.”
  • “Plans are a guide, not a master. A plan serves you. You do not serve the plan. A plan helps to get the work done in an efficient way. It gives you time and freedom to do things you might think that you can’t do. A plan gives you confidence. You know how to plan ahead, and you know how to recover from an event.”
  • “We cannot know what He wills for us ahead of time. But when interruptions come, we can say with confidence, “This is God’s will. He must have something to teach me, or the children, or maybe He is blessing me and the children with this.” Or “Somehow God is being glorified in this event. I need to live obediently and not grump about it or fight it.”
  • “Being upset about interrupted plans is, in essence, fighting with God.”
  • “The key is for us to remove “self” from the center of our world and put God there instead. Serving Him is the most important thing. When we depend on Him, He equips us with the grace to deal with interruptions.”
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