My 2020 Goals

Finally sharing my 2020 Goals or New Years’ Resolutions with you guys!

Now that the holidays are over and we’ve moved and are getting settled in, I can finally get this post published about my goals for 2020. What I love about planning and goals is that, you can set them any day! There is nothing magical about January 1st. You don’t have to feel bad because you are just now setting goals the last week of January, and you certainly don’t have to wait until next year if you’re already feeling behind.

You can set goals and begin any day! Actually this is the perfect time… consider this your “planning week” and January could be your “trial month”, where you actually begin in February! Let’s get it!

Now, since I’ve been thinking about my 2020 goals for several months now, I’ve been able to get started on them, even through us moving and all that craziness. I’m feeling pretty confident that this is going to be a successful year!

-Write down your goals.
Studies show that just by writing down your goals, you are 1.2 to 1.4 times more likely to successfully accomplish those goals than people that don’t.

-Break them down.

I love to break down big yearly goals down into monthly goals, weekly action steps, and even daily habits. It may seem like a big list of “to do”s, but just know that I’m not focusing on all of these steps at once. I’m just doing the next thing on the list. One step at a time, one thing I’m working on, etc. It’s really nice to have a plan in place so I’m not just wandering about unsure of where to go next.

I’m also not fully prioritizing all eight of my goals at once. Some of them (like my pursuing health goal), I’m still thinking through and figuring out. You’ll see over the course of this year how my goals will likely change as I decide exactly what I want to do with them.)

-Review them often.
  I love to post my goals for accountability, but I also review them in my planner pretty often… probably at least once a week, I sit down to review and think through my goals. It helps me to “plan” my weeks and my days with more focus and purposefulness.

-Give yourself grace.
  Life changes. Things happen. We grow. We learn. We’re human. Learn to be okay with progress over perfection. If you didn’t read your Bible every single day this month, don’t beat yourself up. Instead be proud for those days that you DID make it a priority. That’s better than nothing, and it’s great progress you’ve made. Keep going!

-Evaluate and Revise them, if needed.
It is TOTALLY okay if my December 2020 goals look a little bit different than my January 2020 goals I originally set.
Yall know your life can change completely in 12 months, right? Anybody ever had a surprise pregnancy?? Yeah, I have experience with that one too, and it completely changes your yearly goals sometimes. 😀 It’s the perfect example of how things can change in a short time. It’s completely okay (and encouraged!) to review & revise your goals throughout the year, as needed. I actually like to do this seasonally now. My Fall goals last year were completely different than the 19 in 2019 I set in January last year. 😉


With all that said, here are the goals I’ve set for this year:

1. Love my [actual] life; Work on Contentment.

This one comes post-depression for me. When you are depressed, it’s hard to see All.The.Good.in your life… the things that DO bring you joy, the things you prayed for and now have. When you’re depressed the things that once brought you joy just don’t seem to be enough. So for me, this goal is mostly about moving on from that season of depression I have been in this past year.

At times, it feels like I am having to learn how to live life again. Everything seems like it’s brand new. I’m having to regain confidence in myself and my roles as a wife, as a mother, etc. I’m still figuring it all out, but here are some of my mini action steps for this goal.

Mini Goal 1: Create a Life I actually Like.

Starting Steps:
-Create a “Little Loves” List.
  (I did this in the My Purposeful Planning 2020 Workbook & Planner, using the Plan your Purposeful Year Online
       Course.)
-Brainstorm ways to implement these things into my everyday life.
-Begin adding these things to the daily pages of my planner to begin establishing habits for adding the things I love into my everyday; Write a “personal win” down every day.

Mini Goal 2: Cultivate Contentment. 

Starting Steps:
-Verse-Mapping with Scriptures on Contentment
-Listen to the Audio Book: Your New Money Mindset
-Begin writing down things I’m grateful for on my daily pages of my planner.

2. Create a beautiful, memory-filled home school experience that fulfills all of us.

This one took some visualization. I think visualization is a great tool for dreaming up and imagining what you want something to be. I want our kids to look back on our homeschooling days with joy and lots of fun memories. So it’s my job to create that while still giving them all of the tools that they need for educational success.

Mini Goal 1: Involve the kids in the planning process.

Starting Steps:
-Ask the kids what they are interested in learning and doing.
-Start an “Ideas List” where they can write all the ideas they come up with.
-Make a plan to consult the list each week (when planning) and pick something, grab the needed supplies, and actually do it.

Mini Goal 2: Work on a home school journal together.

Starting Steps:
-Let the kids rate the activity, book, field trip according to what they learned and if they enjoyed it.
-Let them write in the journal something they learned every day.
-Keep up with Bible verses, memory work, spelling words, any review items, etc.

Mini Goal 3: Design a beautiful “Circle Time”. 

Starting Steps:
-Pick a name and a time of day that works best.
-Use this time for Bigs to help teach Littles.
-Also, review Bigs’ work like spelling words and Littles can help name the letters in words.
-Review things like calendar, weather, preschool basics, memory work, Bible time, pray together, sing, play games, etc.

Mini Goal 4: Implement some incentives to homeschooling.

Starting Steps:
-Paying for A’s
-Monthly incentive charts (Complete all the work listed on your monthly chart, and you get to pick out a new educational game or book.)
-Homeschooling with a good attitude all week = fun snack on the weekend

3. Move into a home and make it our dream home where we can live out our dreams right now.

This past year, I stopped dreaming for a while… even though “Imagine” was my Word of the Year. I just felt so stuck in our financial situation. We had sold our home because we were overwhelmed by the burden of our mortgage, moved in with family, and it was just hard. It all felt very hopeless because we couldn’t figure out how to get back on our feet again. There only seemed to be more obstacles in the way. With the help of my husband trying to get me to dream again, we started to look at houses. To make a long story short, we decided that moving and changing our environment would be the best option for my mental health, even if it meant that our finances would be tight again. We walked forward in that, but we ended up walking away from a home we were planning to purchase because of some needed home repairs. When we made that wise decision to walk away, God provided another way – an even better way that we could’ve ever imagined. A beautiful rental home became available to us, in our price range, and it’s EXACTLY what we needed! It was definitely God’s provision and favor for us!

Mini Goal 1: Move

Starting Steps:
-Don’t pack much… most things are already contained in something anyway.
-Make a thousand little trips carrying things from place to place (what I can fit in my car along with 4 car seats). Put them away at the new house, and then do it again. (Wooden crates were amazing, by the way… especially for breakable things like dishes.)
-Have CrossFit friends and other heavy-lifting friends help with moving the furniture and big things.

Mini Goal 2: Set it all up.

Starting Steps:
-Decide what the function of each space will be and which furniture will go where.
-Hang things on the walls.
-Organize spaces as you go.

Mini Goal 3: Plan out the rest.

Starting Steps:
-Use the Home Management Planner Pack to plan out each space and list what’s still needed to make it homey and cozy.
-Use the Home Management Planner Pack to plan out new systems and routines for the new place.
-Put these plans into action.

4. Celebrate our 10th Anniversary.

This year, Justin and I will celebrate our 10th year of marriage. We have been through so much in these ten years, but I am so thankful for this man of God that I get to do life with. We haven’t gotten to get away much on our own (unless you count home school conventions or marriage retreats where there is an agenda with other people). We’re excited to plan a trip and celebrate each other this year. We might even renew our vows!

Mini Goal 1: Plan a little getaway.

Starting Steps:
-Decide where we want to go and what we want to do.
-Talk to a trip adviser.
-Book it.
-Set up a babysitter for our kids.

Mini Goal 2: Decide if we want to renew our vows this year.

Starting Steps:
-Plan it: location, attire, food, ideas, etc.

5. Lead a sermon-based small group that teaches women and mamas how to study the Word and live a spiritual life WITH their children in the mix.

This is something I’ve been really excited about lately. I’ve realized how many women don’t actually know how to study God’s Word. It seems difficult to them and hard to understand. I remember being that way too, but this is a barrier that I want to be able to break down this semester. I want women to gain some confidence in the life skill of Bible study so they can really grow spiritually! I’m also hoping that I can inspire women to put aside the “ideal quiet time picture” and all of the excuses of mothering and stress and just let God meet them where they are. I want us to learn how to invite our children into our daily time with Jesus too. I want to learn how we can do spiritual life WITH our children among us.

Mini Goal 1: Sign up. 

Starting Steps:
-Fill out a Small Group Leadership Opportunity Form.
-Talk to someone special about co-leading this group with me.
-Pick a time for the group to meet.

Mini Goal 2: Recruit.

Starting Steps:
-Start mentioning to the group idea to women in the church.
-Social media posts about the group.

Mini Goal 3: Lead

Starting Steps:
-Set up a snack schedule.
-Plan & Study for the lessons each week.
-Text the group during the week.

6. Pursue health (in all forms of the word).

This one has definitely taken a backseat in my life the past few months. However, I know that I need these things in order to help me to continue to make progress in my other goals like loving my life again. I need a good diet to help me feel my best. I need those good endorphins from exercise to help my hormones level out as they should. I need to focus on the rhythms of renewal in my life.

Mini Goal 1: Begin a workout regimen again.

Starting Steps:
-Think through some ideas and pick something: Yoga Classes, CrossFit, Fitness Blender, Walking, etc.

Mini Goal 2: Eat smart.

Starting Steps:
-Focus on drinking my water.
-Meal prep.
-Timed meals.

Mini Goal 3: Wellness

Starting Steps:
-Wellness journaling with the 4 rhythms of renewal ideas in my planner.

7. Learn & Grow; Teach & Inspire.

I’m a 5 on the enneagram so I always love to read and research and learn new things! Give me all the knowledge! I also feel really fulfilled when I’m able to share some of that with others in order to help them in different areas of life… specifically planning a life of purpose. 😉

Mini Goal 1: Learn & Grow

Starting Steps:
-Read or listen to the One Year Chronological Bible & The Bible Recap Podcast.
-Read or listen to an audio book every month.
-Listen to podcasts while I do household chores.

Mini Goal 2: Teach & Inspire

Starting Steps:
-Social Media Posts
-Blog
-Podcast
-Write emails
-Speak

8. Focus on Finances.

After crunching some numbers this past year, I realized that (now that we no longer have a mortgage), we could be debt free in as little as three years. Now – that’s if all the odds are in our favor and we REALLY buckle down with it. But it’s still a pretty neat thought! So obviously, it’s one I’d love to pursue if we can. And of course, I’m sharing it here with you for accountability, and I’ll let you know how it goes!

Mini Goal 1: Monthly Budget

Starting Steps:
-Adjust monthly budget using the Finance Planner Pack to fit our income and new expenses with moving, etc.
-Evaluate our budget monthly to make sure budget lines / amounts are correct.

Mini Goal 2: Set Up Sinking Funds.

Starting Steps:
-Make a list of most common sinking funds.
-Choose one or two to start with. (As debts are paid down, add in more as needed.)

Mini Goal 3: Debt Payoff

Starting Steps:
-Use the Monthly Debt Payoff Worksheets from the Financial Planner Pack to note how much we pay each month, minimally and extra debt payoff.
-Use the Easy Budget Debt Snowball Calculator to determine a debt-free date to work towards.

 

I’m so excited about this year! I would love to know that you are also setting goals and working on them this year. Leave a comment and let me know some of your goals! 2020 is going to be a good year!

Let’s plan a life of purpose, shall we?!

Why Goal-Setting is Necessary

It’s that time of year where everyone seems to be setting new goals,writing out new intentions, and choosing a focus word for their year. I’ve talked to some people recently who don’t set goals, and I ask them why. They tell me things like “I can’t seem to follow through on them.” or “I write them, but then I don’t know how to actually make them happen.”

And I get it. I do. Of course, you all know that I LOVE to dream and plan, but I’ve also been one to get pretty bummed and disheartened when those plans don’t seem to be working out for me.

Take our finances, for example. We planned and followed many of Dave Ramsey’s suggestions, but yet we still couldn’t afford basic life necessities at times. It felt lame. Why couldn’t we get it right? We’d beat ourselves up for the times we had to use a credit card to make some purchases for important things like clothes our children needed or maternity clothes for myself, and honestly we were getting pretty religious about our finances if that’s even a thing. Rule following and not allowing grace for ourselves to just do the best we could. That, and our “plan” was results-based, not action based.

See, one thing about goals is that they could focus on OUR ACTIONS… what we can ACTUALLY DO, instead of the results we want. Sure, the results should be a part of the planning process, but when we only focus on the results, and for whatever reason they don’t happen, we get discouraged. So instead, our focus should be on the actions we take instead. We should be proud of our efforts and keep going little by little until we DO see the results we were after in the end. It’s really about having a GROWTH MINDSET, and not a FIXED MINDSET. We all have the ability to grow and change and get better. We are not stuck where we are now, but we have to do the work to get to where we want to go if we want to see it happen.

Anyway – sometimes when we do feel like we’re failing at something – and it makes us think
“Why even bother trying anymore? It’s not working.”

Well, here’s why. Two reasons.
1. God’s Plan is Bigger than our Plan.
2. Our Life has Purpose.

God’s Plan is bigger than our Plan.

We never know what He is working out behind the scenes for our good. We only see from our own vantage point (which is sometimes a skewed view) – We don’t always see from His big picture. That’s where faith and trust come in. When we believe, trust, and have faith that He is always working on our behalf we can know that He has good things for us. Even when we go through hard things and start to doubt, we need to take those thoughts captive and trust that He’s working it all out.

Here’s an example from our story… the short version if you can believe that. We’ve struggled with finances for nearly ten years – our entire marriage. We couldn’t seem to make our “financial plans” work. But we did do our part to not make things worse by acquiring too much debt that we knew we couldn’t afford. We lived below our means as much as we could and tried to steward what we did have well, even though many times, it did not feel like enough. We felt really burdened by our mortgage, and we proposed the idea to family for us to sell it and save money for a while until we felt like we could move forward towards another house. They agreed to let us live in their house in order to do this. We continued to make “plans” but really couldn’t see how they would ever work out. However, as we began to pray over these plans that seemed really great and would allow us to be debt-free in three years, God began to meet us in that and work on our behalf. We started looking for a home to buy, earlier that we had originally planned because we didn’t think we could afford a rental with our large family. The home purchase fell through because of needed repairs, but the very same day that we walked away from that option, God provided another way…. an ever better way! We weren’t looking for it, but it found us. It was a large-enough, beautiful home for us to rent where we could pay whatever we were comfortable with. A total God thing for sure! That’s how it usually happens for us… we start doing our part, making the plans, looking for what we can do with wisdom, and then God totally meets us with what we need and shows us that He was always working behind the scenes, even when we couldn’t see it.

Our Life has Purpose.

We all have purpose, and once we find that purpose it makes us want to LIVE life to the fullest and do that thing that we were created to do. We no longer want to “just get by” and keeping doing what we’ve always wanted to do…. just letting life happen to us. We want to see change and growth, and so we set out in pursuit of those things. We begin to live with intention and purpose, and to do this well – we need a plan. We MAKE life happen. It’s up to us to at least do our part.

It was hard for me to see Purpose in the middle of my depression. But God spoke it to me anyway. He reminded me of His plans for me and even gave me new ideas. I thought, “There’s no way. I can’t even function with the normal life responsibilities right now. There’s no way I can say ‘yes’ to any of that.” But still, there it was, and there it kept coming to me. My excitement for it began to grow, and my depression began to lessen. I had to choose to fight for my life and for my life’s purpose. Little by little, I’m inching my way towards that more and more every day. You can too. Ask God to reveal to you His ideas for your life… His plans and how you can be a part of what He’s already doing. He’s got something special for you too, something specifically designed Just For You, and you’re going to LOVE IT! 

 

My February and March Ta Da List

The idea of a “Ta Da” List is that we focus on the things that we accomplish, the ways we are successful…. maybe even things that weren’t even on our original “To Do” or “Goals” lists. It’s a way of celebrating the wins – the big and the small, instead of focusing on the negative and feeling guilty for not getting things done. I loved this idea so much that I decided to use it to title and formulate my monthly recap posts as well! This is a monthly blog post I will publish that will hold me accountable to the goals and New Year’s Resolutions that I set for myself for the year.

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    • Started the T-ball season with Lawson
    • Sold our House (An Answer to Prayer!)
    • Purchased a Really Cool Organizational Piece I’ve been Eyeing for literally Years (Happy Birthday to me!)
    • Began reading Treasuring Christ When your Hands are Full by Gloria Furman
    • Began reading Large Family Logistics by Kim Brenneman (This book has been on my wishlist for years after hearing it recommended by several women I follow, but it’s out of print which made it super expensive. I finally saw it for a good price and ordered it.)
    • Started attending our church’s sermon-based small groups
    • Organized our Tax Documents and Filed our Taxes
    • Did some Immediate, Short-term and Long-term Financial Planning
    • Sold some of Layten’s clothes she’s outgrown
    • Donated some clothes purged from all of our wardrobes
    • Made a packing / moving list
    • Hosted the CrossFit Open at our gym this month
    • Attended a Women’s Worship Night at my mom’s church
    • Donated Kids Books to the Little Free Libraries in town
    • Started Consistently Working out at CrossFit again
    • Participated in “A Home at Rest” Bible Study Series with Lisa Rippy of Interior Inspirations
    • Finished Deuteronomy with the kids in Bible Roadtrip
    • Began the book of Joshua with the kids in Bible Roadtrip
    • Finished Lawson’s First-Grade Language Arts Curriculum
    • Researched and Planned Curriculum Choices for Next School Year
    • Ordered Some of our Homeschool Curriculum for Next School Year
    • Purchased Essential Oils and a Diffuser (I’d already eliminated all of the candles in our home, but really wanted a good healthy way to have some good scents and fragrance in our home.)
    • Kept up with my daily skincare routine (most days) I’ve been trying this skincare line for a while. I love the Marula Oil from this kit, and I’ve ordered a larger one. The rest of the line, I believe, is comparable to any other skincare products on the market.
    • Purchased what I’ll call SAHM Clothes to keep from wearing nicer clothes or pajamas when I’m just out and about running errands or taking my kids to ballgames (There had to be some casual, in-between things for me to wear.)
    • Paid all our bills for the month (We may not be ahead on anything, but we aren’t behind on anything either. It’s worth celebrating too – even if it’s just the way we always do things.)
    • Fed all my kids and kept them all alive this month (This one just makes me smile every time… especially with having a newborn in the house and three other littles.)I no longer make long to-do lists for myself… at least not in this season. I may give myself like one goal for the day (that may or may not get done), but mostly I just do what I see that needs to be done when I have a moment. And this Ta Da list makes me feel like it was a very successful month – even though the days were quite a bit more stressful and demanding than I’m used to.

      Whatever you do, let’s make a Plan to be more Purposeful!

19 Things in 2019

I saw the idea of “19 things in 2019”, and I fell in love. Yall know I love lists. While 19 does seem like quite a large number, I’m giving myself the entire year to complete the list. I will break it down into bite-sized pieces, as always, and give myself grace for what I don’t get accomplished. But it sure is a fun way to begin… am I right?


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So here’s my 19 things for 2019…

1. Read through the Bible with my kids using the Bible Roadtrip curriculum.

Instead of trying to do my quiet time totally separate, I’m going to focus on our Bible Roadtrip Curriculum with my kids, and kill two birds with one stone so to speak. This idea was inspired by the book I just finished, Together by Carrie Ward, and by an instagram friend, Phylicia (She doesn’t know me, but I am claiming that we are totally bffs.) This is one way that I’m giving myself grace as a mama, but I am hoping that I’ll be able to go more in depth with it and that we can focus on some scripture memory as well.

2. Explore verse-mapping.

I’m going to try to include this idea with our studies as well, but it’s new to me so I’ll have to learn all about it first.

3. Worship daily with my kids.

My kids and I all love music. Singing together in the car is one of our favorite things. I want to try to incorporate this more when we are home as well. Music calms me when I’m anxious, and I think it will work well for my kids as well. It’s just not currently one of my go-to things that I think about.

4. Journal daily and do “writing sprints”.

This one comes from an idea that came to me a while back. I can’t tell you how many times our kids ask us questions about spiritual things that I feel are just well beyond their years. They already know so much at their young ages than I did at their age for sure. Even the one that I don’t think is listening to me can recall and relate different biblical concepts, and I’m so amazed. I really don’t think it’s because of anything we’ve done – maybe just the prayers we’ve prayed for them… but I want to explore it more. I want to somehow capture these little conversations we have as a means of memory-keeping for them, but also maybe even to publish in some way as well.

The concept of “writing sprints” is just to write… no editing, no formatting, just writing whatever is on my heart. I need to get in the practice of doing this and just see what comes from it.

5. Gradually replace our cleaning products with all-natural versions.

I’ve already done this with our All-Purpose cleaner since I use it the most. I purchased glass bottles, essential oils, castile soap and made my own disinfectant/all-purpose cleaning spray. I wanted a healthier version because this is what I clean my counter tops and tabletop with several times a day. I wanted a chemical-free version so that I can feel good about kneading my bread-dough right on my counter tops and be confident than I’m not adding in any harmful chemicals to my dough by doing so. I already love this spray, and I even made up a few to give as Christmas gifts.

I’m not sure if I’ll continue to make up my own cleaners with essential oil recipes or if I’ll use Branch Basics, which I’ve also looked into. I will do a little research before I make my final decision, and I might just do a mixture of both.

6. Begin to replace my beauty products with all-natural versions.

This one, I’ll admit, is a little scarier for me to commit to. I have products that I already love that I use on a daily basis when it comes to skincare, make-up, and even bath products. I think the easiest way to do this, though, is to just do one thing at a time, as I run out of them. Just like I did with my all-purpose cleaner first for cleaning products… in this category I’m starting with deodorant. I’ve ordered Bentonite Clay Powder that I will use with Apple Cider Vinegar to detox my skin, and then I will try out ClayDry Deodorant from Zion Health. I’ve heard good things. I’ve also seen that you can use the Clay Powder for other purposes as well, such as for shaving so I’m going to probably try that out as well since I have it.

7. Read 6+ books this year, one of them being a fiction book.

My goal for the past few years has been to read 12 books, but I don’t think I’ve actually ever met THAT goal, even though I’ve come close some years. I do believe that it is good to read and be learning constantly so I won’t give it up completely, but I’ve lowered my standards to make them more attainable for me. I have absolutely no shame in doing that. I’m going to try to read 6 books this year, with one of them being a fiction book. I can’t tell you the last time I read a fiction book, other than a children’s book. I’m not sure if I will even like it, but I’m hoping it can be a good “me time” or leisure activity if I can learn to enjoy it.

8. Get back to my healthy self.

There are lots of mini goals wrapped up in this one. I’m so excited to work out again and get back to CrossFit! I’m ready to lose weight, eat healthy, and feel good about myself again. However, this goal comes second to feeding and nourishing my little one through breastfeeding… so instead of focusing on “losing weight” which is sometimes hard to do while breastfeeding, I’m focusing on eating nutritious well-balanced meals instead. I’ll be fueling my body for breastfeeding and workouts. In the past, doing this proved to be great for my milk-supply, and I did end up losing weight as well as an added bonus.

I’m going to start wearing my FitBit watch again. I’ll track my healthy journey’s progress in my planner using the Happy Planner Fitness Extension pack that was gifted to me – I’ll keep a food journal, workout log, and track my progress with pics, weigh-ins, and measurements. I really like to celebrate ALL the wins!

9.  Continue with my daily skincare routine.

A few months ago, I splurged on a new skincare line for myself. I bought the Littles Kit from the Drunk Elephant line so that I could sample all of the products. Some of them, I have fallen in love with, and so now I know which ones to buy the bigger sizes of, and which ones I can probably do without.

10. Plan and participate in regular phone detoxes.

I’d really like to get to a point where I intentionally take regular breaks from my phone… one hour a day, one day a month, and one week of the year will be my goal for this.

11. Cultivate a thriving home school.

This is one of those ongoing goals, but I’m constantly evaluating what is working or not working for us… how my children learn best, and what we can do differently to create a healthy love for learning in our home.

12. Plan, budget for, and complete one household project/month.

I’m making a list for this. It’s something that I often just put on the back-burner, but I want my home to be a place that I love, that sparks joy, and that I’m proud of. I want to be more hospitable and loving our home is going to help me to want to do that even more.

13. Upgrade our dining table to fit our “large family”.

I’ve always dreamed about having large family that could gather around a big ole table. Well I’ve got the family, but we’ve outgrown our table. We are currently squeezing in extra chairs from another dining set we had so we can all have a place to sit, and to be honest – it annoys me when we aren’t sitting at the table because I can’t push all the chairs in at the same time. It’s a minor thing because we do make it work, but I’d like to go ahead and upgrade it this year to a larger table if we can make it happen.

14. Stick to my Flylady cleaning routines.

This is an app on my phone that has different daily routines that I can use for morning, afternoon, and evening. It also has a “Weekly Home Blessing Hour”, and different zones that I clean weekly and can rotate through the house so that it never gets too out of control. It’s a really good system, and I love that it can be edited as well to fit my specific needs.

15. Repeat the KonMari process.

I went through this process for the first time probably about three years ago. Funny that it’s now becoming a trending-hot topic because of the show that just aired this month on Netflix. I’d like to go back through this process because I know I’ve grown since that time, and I’m embracing minimalism more and more as time passes.

16. Pay off 1-2 Student Loans this year.

This one is pretty much self-explanatory. Our student loans are our only debt right now, besides our mortgage. We’ve had them in deferment for several years because our income hasn’t been enough for us to cover them. This past year we were able to start paying on Justin’s, and now we have to pay mine monthly as well. I recently did a debt calculation that said we would have them paid off in seven years if we keep up with paying them monthly. (So basically if we had been able to afford them, they could already be paid off by now.)  Oh well. Anyway, we’d like to be able to continue with the monthly minimum payments all year, but also use our tax refund to pay off one of the smaller portions or two entirely if we can.

17. Establish basic Sinking Funds.

This is something I learned about last year but haven’t been able to carry out just yet. Hopefully we’ll get to a point where we are able to plan more for our future purchases and be in control a bit more, but if not – we’ll be okay with that too I guess. We’re just trying to do the best we can with what we have, and I can confidently say we are doing that.

18. Study the Enneagram.

Originally this one on my list was to “learn about and try new wines” this year, but my husband wasn’t too fond of that being one of my goals so I changed it to this one. I’ll just stick to ordering the one or two wines I know I like when we go out to dinner. Lol.

The Enneagram is something that’s becoming increasingly more popular now. I read about it in the book Reading People by Anne Bogel last year, but I didn’t spend much time on that chapter because I wasn’t as familiar with it. I’d like to learn more about my own type and what it means this year as well as the types of those in my family and those closest to me.

19. Learn to do a Hand-Stand Push-Up.

This was the same goal I set for last year in CrossFit, but I didn’t know I’d be pregnant most of last year so it wasn’t a goal that actually got met. Since I wasn’t already confident with being upside down (it’s actually a big fear of mine still), I REALLY didn’t feel confident in continuing to work on it while being “with child”. So… here it is again. A fear for me to overcome, and a goal for me to hopefully achieve and just a fun item to complete my list for the year.

I hope to be able to share with you monthly how it’s going with this list, and what I’m specifically doing to accomplish the goals I have set here. I’d love to have you as my accountability, and I’d love to know what your goals are for the new year.

Do you set New Year’s Resolutions? In what ways are you Planning to be more Purposeful in 2019?


My Word for 2019

I love the idea of having a focus word for the year. I started this back in 2016 with the word “Intentional”. That was the year I really began to use planning as a way to be more purposeful or “intentional” in my life. I didn’t choose a word at the beginning of 2017, but it was a hard year for me, and I learned a lot about my “identity” that year so I summed up the year at the end with that word. My word for 2018 was “Increase”, and I saw many aspects of that word throughout the year.

Just like I didn’t fully understand what God had planned for us in relation to my Word of the Year for 2018 until the end of the year, I’m sure it will be the same for this year’s word as well. While I already have my word for 2019, I don’t really know what it means for me yet.

I always like to tie a scripture in with my word of the year to focus on. This year, because I don’t know yet what is to come – I have three. So as the year progresses, we’ll see if we can narrow it down, or if God somehow just uses all three.

Last year, my word was Increase. God used that word in so many different ways – not just one. We saw increase in our faith, increase in our finances, and increase in our family as well with the blessing of a new baby. I’m sure it will be the same with this year’s word as well.

My Word of the Year for 2019 is IMAGINE.

Now to the one who can do infinitely more than we can ask or IMAGINE according to the power that is working among us. Ephesians 3:20

In this sense, I am going to IMAGINE the things that God is going to do. I think this is God giving me permission to dream. I’m going to imagine and dream big. Then, I will be praying those dreams back to God and see what He has planned. His plans and desires are always greater than our own. The bigger we dream and imagine, I believe the bigger things He will do.

Brethren, I do not IMAGINE that I have yet laid hold of it. But this one thing I do – forgetting everything which is past and stretching forward to what lies ahead of me. Philippians 3:13

This, I think, is in relation to the purpose that God has for us. We will not look to what we have done in the past or maybe even what we’re doing right now, but we will stretch ourselves (maybe even out of our comfort zones) to the bigger, eternal purpose that He has for us.

Then God’s peace which goes far beyond anything we could IMAGINE will guard your hearts and minds in union with the Messiah Jesus. Philippians 4:7

No matter what… we will have peace. It’s the unshakable peace that we cannot even fathom or understand, but it’s the one only God can give. No matter what fails or goes wrong or breaks or comes to an end, we will trust that God has it all under control.

The word Imagine is not a word I would’ve ever probably chosen on my own, but I’m excited to see what God has in store for us this year in relation to this word.

Do you have a Word of the Year? I’d love to know what your word is and how you use it to be more purposeful in your year.

36-Week Bumpdate & Baby-Prep Checklist

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Current Pregnancy Stats…

How far along: 36 Weeks, 2 Days

Countdown: 5 days until we’re considered “Full Term” / 27 days until due date / 41 days max until the 42 week deadline
(I usually carry my babies later than my due date so I’m mentally preparing for that.)

Size of Baby: Last Ultrasound Baby Measured over 5lbs! Baby is the size of a Honeydew Melon this week.

My Body Changes: I was told at church yesterday that it looks like baby has “dropped”. Of course, I’ve never been able to notice this feeling myself in any of my pregnancies. I know that in my pregnancy with Linkin and Layten, I carried them both so low the entire time that there was literally no where for them to drop down to. I haven’t felt that way with this pregnancy, but I also don’t feel any recent differences either so I don’t know.

I’ve also had noticeable Braxton Hicks contractions this week, which I’ll have to admit just excites me very much.

Must Have Items: I’ve now reached the point of my pregnancy where I have “Purse Tums” and “Night Stand Tums”.

Sleep: With the exception of the heartburn, I am actually sleeping pretty great lately. I think I’ve mastered the pillow situation, and some nights I can even sleep all the way through without having to get up to use the bathroom!

Cravings: I’ve been really into hearty soups lately, and I’ve also really enjoyed mashed potatoes this pregnancy. This is definitely a Barrett baby, because that’s what Justin’s mom craved during her pregnancy with him.

Baby Movement: Baby’s movements are getting bigger and stronger now, and my whole belly moves sometimes. Baby also gets hiccups at least once a day now.

Gender: Since this is baby #4 for us and we already have both genders and clothes for both, we opted to not find out the gender of this baby until it’s born. Yes, I’m tired of saying “it” or “the baby”, but we’ll be able to call it by name soon enough. 😉 We really don’t have a preference for either one this time, and we just think it will be fun to be surprised!

Names: We do have a name picked out for both genders, which we are keeping a secret until after baby is born. Both names do start with letter “L” though, of course, and they are unique in that we don’t know anyone personally who has these names, but we didn’t just make up names either. We can’t wait to call our baby by name and share this with you!

Challenges this Week: This week I stepped on a Paw Patrol pup, and something happened. I felt a shift, and it felt like something broke or got misplaced internally. I literally felt sore and uncomfortable for the rest of the day any time I walked, lifted my leg to get dressed, or got up or down. I messaged my chiropractor before I went to bed, and she gave me an exercise to try. I felt a pop, and I was able to have a good night’s sleep. I woke up feeling MUCH better. Pregnancy is weird sometimes. I’ll be sure to have my kids pick up their toys a little better. 😉

Best Moment of the Week: I love how excited our older kids are about this baby. Lawson (age 6) is one who’s always hugging my belly and saying hi or bye the baby when he leaves. He also often prays for the baby at bedtime. Linkin (age 4) prays for the baby as well sometimes as well as for my tummy and back to feel good. Layten (age 2), although we don’t really know if she understands what’s about to happen, she sure talks like she does. The best moment was this week when she wanted to talk to the baby. She talked to my belly and said, “Hey, baby. I Dayten! I’m the baby girl! Bye, baby.” It’s almost like she was claiming her girl territory just in case this baby is also a girl. It was pretty funny.

Nursery Progress: We are not doing a nursery for this baby, but here’s how we’ve decided to work this out. All three of our children share one bedroom. Our two boys share a full-size bed, and our daughter has her own twin size bed. Our second bedroom is used as a playroom… but this is where we’ll keep the baby’s things mostly. We’re going to set up a changing station in that room for the baby, the baby’s clothes will be stored in that closet, and there’s a comfy rocking chair in there for night nursing sessions so that we don’t wake the others in the house. The mini crib is in our master bedroom currently.

Things I Miss: I miss working out. There have been days where I just have the urge to go in and lift some weights, but I also know all of the aches and pains I’ve felt recently due to the Relaxin hormone and just things shifting and changing and how just the simplest things have hurt me… so I’m playing it safe right now.

Fears: I’ll have to admit that I’m a little afraid about how big this baby will be. Baby measured over five pounds at my last ultrasound, and I calculated that if baby grows half a pound a week for the remaining six weeks, that it will be over eight pounds. I know that eight pounds isn’t really THAT large, but Layten was over eight pounds when she was born, and I just know the difference of how much more difficult her delivery was from delivering Linkin who was only seven pounds. I also know that I usually carry my babies later than my due date, so I’m a little worried about this one being too big for me to deliver naturally. I’m trying to just think positive and not worry too much about it, but it’s just something I keep thinking about.

Eats: I’m hungry all the time now, and I’m open to anyone cooking for me or taking me out to eat in this final month. ;-D

Baby-Prep Checklist

By now, if you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know that I’m a planner and a goal-getter. I’m especially good at this when I have a clearly defined deadline in sight, and a baby’s due date is the perfect opportunity to get on the ball and get some things done!

I planned our Homeschool terms to accomodate our baby’s due date. We started our school year in July so we could take a good, long break in December when our new baby comes. I also finished our Christmas shopping super early so I wouldn’t have to worry with all of that while I’m home with a newborn. It’s great to have a good deadline to work towards.

Because I’m a little nerdy, and not ashamed to admit it, I researched on Pinterest what items a baby needs just for the sake of list-making. For the most part, I already know what we need and like to have for a baby, and what’s not really necessary. This comes from having three children already, BUT I’ve also done lots of minimalizing and purging since having our last baby, and I wanted to make sure we had enough of everything for this baby. I’m determined to think minimally when it comes to this baby, because I know I have a big hoarding tendency – especially when it comes to all these sweet baby things!

Since we don’t know the gender of this baby, it’s hard to know exactly what we need, but here’s what I did…

I took all of our baby clothes that we had in storage and separated them by size and gender.
I took out all of the Newborn size for both genders and washed them up in that good-smelling baby detergent. In the past, I would’ve washed and organized ALL the clothes that I could possibly fit in baby’s dresser and several month’s worth, but since we don’t know the gender yet – I only did this with the Newborn clothes this time to keep things to a minimum.
I labelled the other storage boxes properly, and I do have easy access to the 0-3 month clothes in both genders so that I can easily wash those after we get home with baby and as we start to need them.

So here’s the list I found and adapted of what’s needed for baby…

  • Infant Carseat (We were given one, though I’m keeping my eye out for one that’s more gender-neutral.)
  • Crib (We still have our mini-crib and sheets from our last baby.)
  • Dresser/Changing Table (Check.)
  • Special Gender-Neutral Coming Home Outfit (I ordered one I’ve been eyeing for a while. It’s so soft and sweet.)
  • 10 Bodysuits (We have 11 for girl & 10 for boy.)
  • 4-6 Outfit Sets (We have 3 for girl & 2 for boy.)
  • 5 Bottoms (We have 5 for girl & 6 for boy.)
  • 7 Sleepers (We have 7 for girl & 4 for boy.)
  • 2 Swaddler Blankets (We have 3 for girl, 1 for boy, & 3 gender-neutral.)
  • 2 Sleep Sacks (We have 1 gender-neutral.)
  • 10 Wash Cloths (I don’t know why you’d ever need 10 wash cloths, but we have plenty for both genders.)
  • 3 Hooded Towels (We have hooded towels for girl, but I need to get some for boy or gender-neutral.)
  • 8 Bibs (We have 2 for girl & 1 for boy. (Gender-neutral bibs are in my Amazon cart.)
  • 8 Burp Cloths (We have 3 for girl. Gender-neutral burp cloths are in my Amazon cart.)
  • 2 Hats (We have 5 for girl & 7 for boy. I love little hats on a newborn.)
  • 6 Sock Pairs (We have 8 girl & 10 for boy.)
  • Newborn Diapers – 1 Box or 148 total (We have 64.)
  • Size 1 Diapers – 3 Boxes or 648 total (We have 478.)
  • Size 2 Diapers – 3 Boxes or 558 total (We have 651.)
  • Size 3 Diapers – 4 Boxes or 900 total (We have 244.)
  • Wipes (We have lots of diapers and wipes from our surprise shower…What a huge blessing!)
  • Diaper Rash Cream (My favorite is in my Amazon cart.)
  • Baby Shampoo (We have a few bottles already that were given to us.)
  • 1 Diaper Bag (We’ll be using the same one I used with Layten because I loved it’s organization.)
  • 1 Boppy Pillow (Check. We also have a few different boy and girl covers that are washed and ready to go.)
  • 1 Rock n Play (I’m on the lookout for one of these, but I know it’s also not completely necessary since we have a crib.)
  • 2-3 Pacis (I will be purchasing a few Pat Pats and Cutie Clips from Ryan and Rose.)
  • Hamper or Basket for Baby Laundry (I’m on the lookout, but I could easily just use a basket we already have too.)
  • Baby Play Gym (I ordered this one, and I’m so excited about it.)
  • Swing or Bouncer (We don’t have either of these, but I’m still trying to decide if we really even need them or not.)
  • Stroller (I have a double-umbrella stroller that will work when they get older. I prefer a baby carrier when they are small.)
  • Baby Carrier (I have a Baby K’Tan for the newborn stage and a Tula for as they get a little bigger.)
  • Breast Pump & Accessories (I debated ordering a new pump all together, but I think I’m just going to order a new accessory kit to go with my current one.)
  • 4-6 Bottles (We have way more than this. It really shows me how much a hoarder I’ve been in the past. I think I will use them mostly for freezing milk though since I have so many instead of purchasing the milk storage bags.)
  • Bottle Brush (It’s on my list.)
  • Nursing Pads (I have some washable ones.)
  • Nursing Bras (I do have some, but I will be purchasing more.)
  • Pajamas for Mom at Hospital (I have a nice nursing gown and robe, but I will probably buy a pants set too.)
  • Robe for Mom at Hospital (I want to get a nice robe that will match with everything.)
  • Slippers for Mom at Hospital (It’s on my list.)
  • Toiletries for Mom & Dad to Pack & Keep in Hospital Bag (It’s on the list.)
  • Is there anything missing from my list that you think we’ll need? Let me know in the comments of this post!

And here’s what’s on my personal Baby-Prep Task List…

  • Purchase any of the priority things we still need from my list above
  • Print my birth plan
  • Register at the hospital
  • Prep some Freezer meals (dinners, easy grab-n-go breakfasts for the kids, & lactation cookie dough)
  • Sterilize Pacis, Bottles, & Breast pump parts
  • Select & confirm new pediatrician
  • Set up changing station
  • Pack Mom, Dad, and Baby’s hospital bag.
  • Install car seat. (This would be a great time to also clean out my car really good. It’s a “mom car”.)
  • Plan for a housekeeper to come and do a good deep cleaning
  • Plan a final date night (kid-free)

Anytime I’m working on a big project or getting ready for something big… I like to start with the big picture and work my way down to all those tiny details. I’m very detail-oriented so I love this type of thing. I love creating a system so that I don’t forget anything that’s really important. It really helps me to make sure that I have enough time to get everything down and money in the budget to afford the things we need as well.
Step One: Research what’s needed, what needs to be done, etc.
Step Two: Adapt the list or research that I find to suit my needs and make my own list(s) from it.
Step Three: Plug these tasks into my planner and add the needed items to my various shopping lists. (Amazon and Wunderlist for things I’d rather buy in-store.)

So that’s what I’ve done. This past week, I did a few things like Order the Baby’s Coming Home Outfit, Raised the Crib Mattress, and purchased a couple nursing bras. I also grabbed a few extra things during my grocery shopping trip that will hopefully keep us stocked for a while after baby comes so we won’t have to rush out to get those at any point… pull-ups for our toddler, paper towels, etc.

Next week I’ll make sure to print my birth plan, purchase the needed toiletries and items for the hospital, pack our hospital bags, and install the infant car seat.

See how that works? Like a charm hopefully! Help me to know if there’s something I might’ve missed… because “Baby Brain” is a real thing. 😉 

My Monthly Goals

After reviewing my yearly goals, here is an update for October and a preview of the things I will be working on for the month of November…

I like to share my Monthly Goals with you here because it holds me accountable for one, and also I just hope that it can inspire you in some way to create goals of your own and find something that you can be working on. I believe that to be purposeful and intentional, we have to make an effort to do so. I like to make a plan of how I will accomplish certain goals, and I’ve found it to be really helpful for me. Your plans may not be as detailed as mine, and that’s perfectly okay. I’ve been doing this for quite some time now. Just start somewhere with something, and make a plan to be more purposeful. You’ll be glad you did!

Spiritual Goals:

This month I am studying, writing out, and praying God’s promises. I’m not following any specific guide or anything, but I might possible compile them all for a project later on. We’ll see!

Mothering/Family Goals:

  • Football season with Lawson – We ended our regular season undefeated, so we will be advancing to the playoffs this month.
  • Bi-weekly trips to the Library with my kids (They have been choosing to go spend time with Dad at work instead of going with me on my shopping days so this hasn’t happened like we planned.)
  • Linkin has a special goal he is working towards for a prize.. (Linkin met his goal and picked out two small monster trucks as his prize. Go Linkin!)
  • Lawson also completed one of his reading charts and got to pick out a small prize as well this month!
  • This month, I’d like to take the kids to the local children’s museum a few times. We need to use our membership there before life gets crazy with a new baby in the family. There are some Thanksgiving-Themed story times that I think will be great to go to.
  • We’ve also got some Christmas-prep type activities that I’d like to finish up with them this month.

Homeschooling Goals:

I might be reaching a point of home school burnout for this semester, but we’ve been chugging along still. It’s very possible that it’s pregnancy-related, and I’m just tired. I started doing what we’re calling “Math Drills” with Lawson where I give him a worksheet with addition or subtraction facts and time him to see how fast he can answer them. This is to replace our “Flashcard Drills”, and he likes it so much better because it’s a challenge for him to be competitive with himself and his timed scores, even though the problems are always different. I remember doing this in school with multiplication facts, and it was helpful to learn the facts the more I did them. Lawson will also be working on his first Reading Fair project this month.

Linkin is still doing the “You Can Read Sight Words” curriculum, and he loves the hands-on approach. We used one of my erasable, friXion highlighters and read through one of our books to find all of his current sight words in it, and he really enjoyed this activity. We are also still doing the Raising Rockstars Program as well, and his favorite part of this one is singing the song of the week. He loves music!

Layten is continuing with her Tot School Printables. We are currently learning letter “Jj”, and I’m impressed that she’s really learning things… especially the things that we repeat from week to week like colors and shapes. She can name several of them, and she does really well matching things up one-to-one so this has been a great way for her to learn – whether it’s using felt shapes with her shapes page or printing off two copies of her pages for her to match up. She loves to do school!

For more on our Homeschooling… you can visit our Homeschool Page. 

My Personal Goals:

Blogging –

This has been such a fun few months for me with blogging. Although, I haven’t been putting out a ton of posts, I’ve been doing lots of working and writing and learning behind the scenes for some future things. I did do a Vision Quest Email Series this month, so that was exciting for me since it was my very first series to send out solely by email. This month I hope to be sharing with you some Christmas-Themed Posts as well as some Baby-Related Posts as we are in our final month of counting down this pregnancy.

Home Organization –

(Kids’ Clothes)

As you know from my How to Put Together a Kids’ Capsule Wardrobe Post, I went through all the kids’ clothes in September to figure out exactly what we needed for Fall and Winter. Since doing that, I found another box in storage of really nice clothes for Linkin that we had missed, Lawson was given a big bag of hand-me-down clothes and had a grandparent purchase him some nice things as well, and Layten was gifted clothes for her birthday. We are for sure, all-set now! What a blessing!

(Baby Items)

Since we don’t know the gender of our baby coming in December, I used our last Home school Break Week to sort through all of our newborn things for both genders together to see what we have and what we still need. It’s funny that I put those baby things away in storage and then took them out to find that some of them were really stained. I learned that baby stains are different than other stains, as they have enzymes in them that are especially hard to remove. But alas, I did find the perfect solution that got 98% of the baby stains out that I will share with you this month. It was so much fun to sort though all of those little clothes and get excited about another baby that will get to wear them.

This month I need to do a little more baby-prep… Here’s what’s on my list:
  • Decide if we will stick with our current pediatrician or switch to a new one.
  • Get an infant carrier and install it towards the end of the month.
  • Decide if there are any other big baby-items we would like to get besides the crib and car seat.
    (Swing, Bouncer, Play Gym, etc.)
  • Prepare some freezer meals to make the postpartum adjustment period a little easier.
  • Prepare a Lactation Cookie Dough Recipe to freeze for later use.
  • Raise the crib mattress, and make up with bedding.
  • Register at the hospital.
  • Purchase accessories needed for nursing.
  • Check breast pump and sterilize its parts.
  • Print my birth plan, though I doubt I will even need it (especially if this labor is faster than the last one).
  • Set up the diaper changing area.
  • Pack hospital bags.

Marriage Goals:

  • Weekly Budget Meetings as a Couple to keep us on Track with our Goals (Sometimes these happen through text messaging, but we try to stay on track and keep each other updated.) These will definitely continue. It’s going to be a super-tight month as we finish up Christmas prep, prepare for baby, and do some traveling this month. We will definitely have to prioritize financial things this month.
  • Go out on a date. We haven’t gone out on an actual date since early September so it’s definitely needed this month, especially before baby comes.

Health & Fitness Goals:

This goal has definitely been put on the back-burner for now. I’d hoped to be able to work out throughout my entire pregnancy, but I have given myself lots of grace this past month. It’s mostly a mental thing, and not so much a physical thing. As much as I love CrossFit and don’t mind modifying things, having to modify literally everything is annoying. There are so many things I’m not allowed to do during pregnancy and so many lifts that I’ve had to decrease weight on so that my form wouldn’t suffer too much. So while I physically am just not allowed to do certain things, it was the mental aspect that got me. Don’t worry… as soon as I’m able to ease back into it, I’m so excited to do so. 2019, I’m coming for you!

Financial Goals:

  • Continue in the grocery store & drugstore game for saving money with our food, toiletries, & household purchases. We’ve been stocking up extra on things like toilet paper, cleaning products, and now diapers so that we won’t have to rush out and get those things when the baby comes. Nobody wants to have to venture out with a newborn.
  • Prepare for Christmas. I am proud to say that we are “almost” done! All that we’ll have left to get is what Justin and I will get for each other, if we’re able, and stocking stuffers. Everything else is done, and just needs to be wrapped.

What goals will you be working on this month?

If you’re just starting out, you can read my series on My Purposeful Planning. Choose one goal to start working on, learn how to reach that one goal, and I think doing this will only lead you to want to achieve more.

Whatever you do, let’s go make a plan to be more purposeful!

My Monthly Goals

After reviewing my yearly goals, here is an update for September and a preview of the things I will be working on for the month of October…

I like to share my Monthly Goals with you here because it holds me accountable for one, and also I just hope that it can inspire you in some way to create goals of your own and find something that you can be working on. I believe that to be purposeful and intentional, we have to sometimes make an effort to do so. I like to make a plan of how I will accomplish certain goals, and I’ve found it to be really helpful for me. Your plans may not be as detailed as mine, and that’s perfectly okay. I’ve been doing this for quite some time now. Just start somewhere with something, and make a plan to be more purposeful. You’ll be glad you did!

Spiritual Goals:

Continue reading the One Year Bible & praying strategically

Mothering/Family Goals:

  • Football season with Lawson.
  • Bi-weekly trips to the Library with my kids
  • Linkin has a special goal he is working towards for a prize, but I won’t share it here. (He’s almost finished!)

The boys also asked how they could earn some extra money so that they can buy things they want when we go shopping, so I considered this. We don’t give a regular allowance for chores that are expected of all of our family members, so this would have to be something extra. I did come up with a few extra things that I would pay them to do. Lawson took me up on this twice, but since then nothing. I’ve offered it to Linkin too, but he really would rather not do extra work, so there ya go. 😉

Homeschooling Goals:

This month I started grading some of Lawson’s work to help me to better track his progress and to also make sure that things like handwriting and spelling actually get done correctly. I don’t know the correct way to teach this, other than to have him “fix” the mistakes so he doesn’t continue to make the same ones over and over. I introduced the “You Can Read Sight Words” curriculum to Linkin to test out. It’s a more hands-on approach, so I think we may either switch over completely or at least add in some of these activities each week. Layten is continuing with her Tot School Printables. For more on our Homeschooling… you can visit our Homeschool Page. 

My Personal Goals:

Blogging –


I’ve got several small goals that I’m working on currently with this blog, and it’s all just kind of a big learning process for me. I actually merged my blog to a whole new hosting site this month, and you may have noticed my new newsletter feature. I’m trying to work at it at least a little each day and hopefully, I’ll get even better at consistency and gain some momentum. It’s all part of the bigger goal and vision that I have, but I’m just working through one thing at a time. Thank you for your patience with me and support!

Home Organization –

(Kids’ Clothes)

I went through all of the kids’ clothes storage this past month to see what we have/what we needed for the upcoming Fall/Winter season. Turns out, we have plenty for them from all of the hand-me-downs we’ve been given, and it wasn’t necessary for me to take a shopping trip to the kids’ consignment sale this year.

(Desk Solution)

I didn’t purchase a new desk, but I did reorganize all of my office, home school, and planning supplies into bins on a 4-cubby shelf that I moved into the dining room. I purchased two chalkboards that we can use for school or our memory work. I can use the dining table as my “work surface”, and I just have to put everything away when I’m done. It’s working well for now, because everything has a place.

(Baby Items)

This month I will be going through all of the baby boxes we have. Since we don’t know the gender of our baby coming in December, I will get all of our newborn things for both genders together to see what we have and what we still need. We’ve got 10 weeks left, but I’m working on this mostly during our home school break week.

Marriage Goals:

  • Weekly Budget Meetings as a Couple to keep us on Track with our Goals (Sometimes these happen through text messaging, but we try to stay on track and keep each other updated.)
  • Weekly Quality Time Together at home (This one has been hard to come by because our kids are so needy and demanding *insert chuckle*. We have movies we’ve started but not finished. We’ve got to get better at this one.)
  • At Least One Date Night This Month – We had an at-home date night this past month with take-out sushi, Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, and a movie.

Health & Fitness Goals:

Health, Smealth! I’m kidding, but this has been a FULL month so it has not been something I’ve been able to prioritize as much. I had several deadlines and things that needed to be completed so I didn’t prioritize making it to the gym to workout as much. I still made it about once-twice/week but it’s definitely not where I was used to.

Financial Goals:

  • Continue in the grocery store & drugstore game for saving money with our food, toiletries, & household purchases.
  • I know I’ve mentioned sinking funds here before. We have tried for two months and four pay periods to make them work for us, but so far, we haven’t had much success in that area. I’ve had to cut some lines from our budget, and of course the sinking funds/planning ahead were the first to go, unfortunately. Maybe one day we will get it. It doesn’t mean we aren’t trying.
  • Prepare for Christmas. (Baby coming in December – I’ve gotta get on it!) I purchased a few gifts this past month, including one for our children, collectively, and I’ve been working on solidifying their Christmas lists with the things they tell me. I’d like to purchase or make a few more gifts this month.

What goals will you be working on this month?

If you’re just starting out, you can read my series on My Purposeful Planning. Choose one goal to start working on, learn how to reach that one goal, and I think doing this will only lead you to want to achieve more.

Whatever you do, let’s go make a plan to be more purposeful! 

Our Family I.D.

This Summer, Justin and I led a small group at our church called Family I.D., and it was phenomenal! I’ve been wanting to share with you the things that God gave us for our family through doing this small group…. Our Core Values, Our Vision Statement, our Mission Statement, and our Family Slogan.

We weren’t sure how this small group would go. There were a lot of hands-on activities that required each family represented to do some “homework”. We didn’t know if it was something they would grasp ahold of and actually take the time to do or not. To be honest, we weren’t super excited to do the work ourselves. But as the weeks went on, the process became clearer and clearer, and God spoke to each of the families represented in our small group and gave each one a clear Family I.D.

We started by selecting our Family Core Values. You’ve heard my mention these on my blog. The worksheet printable I created for you here at My Purposeful Planning is very similar to the one we used for this small group. We compared our lists with that of our spouse and discussed the similarities and differences in our lists. We took it home and also talked to our children about our lists. We narrowed our lists down to which Core Values we would like to best represent our family.

In no certain order, here are the Core Values our family chose…
Family & Relationships
Humor
Knowing God / Prayer / Worship
Personal Growth / Growth
Teamwork / Unity

At first I thought that “humor” seemed like a silly thing to be included in our core values, but the more I thought about it, the more I loved that it was one that we chose. We want to laugh and be silly with our kids always, and we want to laugh and enjoy having fun with friends, family, and guests when they come to visit our home as well. Laughter and humor are good things. I think the rest of the values we chose are probably self-explanatory.

We added verbs to help solidify these for our family…
Celebrate Family & Relationships.
Embrace Humor.
Prioritize Knowing God, Prayer, & Worship.
Pursue Personal Growth.
Praise Teamwork & Unity.

Next, we worked to write our Family Vision Statement. 
“Having a well-defined vision statement will help ensure that no matter what life brings, no matter where we find ourselves, we can still get our bearings and stay on course.” – Greg Gunn

“Your family vision statement describes where you are going in words that greatly motivate you to take action.”

“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.” Habakkuk 2:2 ESV

Our Family Vision Statement is… 
“To collectively know who we are in Christ and use each of our unique giftings to fulfill God’s Purpose”

After coming up with our vision statement and knowing the direction we wanted our family to go, we came up with a Family Mission Statement that would help us get there… “We will build solid family relationships that are grounded in God, Growth, and Grace.”

And finally, we came up with a simple slogan that our entire family can easily remember to sum up all of these things… Our Family Slogan is “We’re Grounded!” I’m thinking it’s going to be fun to have shirts made for our kids to wear that tell the world they are grounded… (Pun intended). Of course the Mission Statement will probably be there somewhere on the shirt to, and hopefully we’ll all be able to explain what it means to us, in case people ask.

It’s so important that we aren’t “just winging it” as parents. It’s too important of a responsibility that we’ve been given. Having a vision for WHERE we want our family to end up and then coming up with a mission for HOW we will get there is vital. Think about what you want your kids to be like as adults. How can you start encouraging these things in your children now?

We personally love that this small group and these things have given us the verbage and language we needed to talk to our kids about the things God gave us for our family. It’s given us specific things that we can pray over each member of our family daily, which is really strategic in helping us move forward with the direction God wants our family to go.

If you’d like more information about this particular small group curriculum, here’s a link to the videos we watched in each group session as well as the website with more family resources available.

Have you done something like this for your family? Really pray about this, and take the time to do this with your spouse or partner in parenting. I’d love to know what you come up with!

Whatever you do, Let’s Make a Plan to Be More Purposeful! 

My Monthly Goals for September 2018

After reviewing my yearly goals, here are the things I will be working on for the month of September… 

Spiritual Goals:
Continue in reading the One Year Bible

Mothering/Family Goals:

  • Begin the football season with Lawson.
  • Bi-weekly trips to the Library with my kids
  • Linkin has a special goal he is working towards for a prize, but I won’t share it here.
  • The boys have also asked how they can earn some extra money so that they can buy things they want when we go shopping, so I’m considering this. We don’t give a regular allowance for chores that are expected of all of our family members, so this will have to be something extra.

    Homeschooling Goals:
    We are back to homeschooling, full force now. Layten will continue to work through Tot School Printables Curriculum with me. Linkin with continue to work through Raising Rockstars Preschool with me. Lawson will continue in Language Arts, Math, and Penmanship/Handwriting. We will continue to do Bible Roadtrip as a family. We will especially work this month on establishing a regular “Morning Time” for our memory work and read alouds. We’ve been getting this done, but having a set time for it would greatly benefit us I think.

My Personal Goals:
Reading Plans –
I’m working to get my Hoopla app working so I can listen to audio books from the library. If I can get this to work, my plan is to listen to one or two books this month. I will count this towards my goal of reading 12 books this year.
Home Organization –
(Kids’ Clothes) This month I will be going through all of the kids’ seasonal clothes (and possibly also the baby clothes we have in storage). I’ll make a list of what each child will need to make a simple and minimal Fall/Winter Capsule Wardrobe. There is a Kids’ Consignment at the end of this month I plan to attend and stock up on everything we’ll need. I’m praying that our budget will allow for this because it will be so nice to get all of that shopping done in one day. We currently have all three kids sharing a room with one closet and one dresser, and we plan to keep it to that – especially with a new baby coming.
(Desk Solution) I also have another home organization goal of replacing my large desk in our master bedroom with a smaller (but with more functional vertical storage) version that we can use elsewhere in the house (possibly the living room or dining room). I don’t love the idea of having a desk in the living areas of the house, but I do really benefit from having a desk and a place to keep my planning and blogging supplies… a place to spread out when I need to, but also have a home for everything too. The reason I’m looking to do this, is that we need that space in our room for our baby’s crib in December (except that now it’s currently taking up unnecessary play space in the kids’ play room) so the sooner, the better. This may not happen this month if the budget and time doesn’t allow for it, but the reason I’m thinking about it now is that we only have two more homeschool break weeks before the baby comes, and one of those is Thanksgiving Week – which I’d like to save for our travels and for Christmas decorating.

Marriage Goals:

  • Weekly Budget Meetings as a Couple to keep us on Track with our Goals (Sometimes these happen through text messaging, but we try to stay on track and keep each other updated.)
  • Weekly Quality Time Together at home (This one has been hard to come by because our kids are so needy and demanding *insert chuckle*. We have movies we’ve started but not finished. We’ve got to get better at this one.)
  • At Least One Date Night This Month (We already had a date night this past weekend, actually, so if we have another it would just be a bonus.)

    Health & Fitness Goals:
    Keep doing CrossFit, even if I have to modify and scale everything. Keep meal planning and having healthy meals readily accessible for us.

Financial Goals:

  • Continue in the grocery store & drugstore game for saving money with our food, toiletries, & household purchases.
  • Continue with sinking funds & reaching goals there.
  • Prepare for Christmas. (Baby coming in December – I’ve gotta get on that!) Purchase or make at least one gift this month.

Professional Goals:
Post about our Family’s Core Values, Vision, Mission, and Slogan
Post about our Sinking Funds & Financial Goals
What else would you like to see from me this month?

What goals will you be working on this month? If you’re just starting out, you can read my series on My Purposeful Planning and hopefully be inspired with one thing to begin with and how to reach that one goal, which will only lead you to want to achieve more.

Whatever you do, Let’s go make a plan to be purposeful!